Archive for August, 2012
Thursday, August 30th, 2012
In numerology, the number 5 represents ‘work’. In the language of Thai, 5 is pronounced HA!
When I present my laughter wellness programs, I ‘play around’ with the fact of HA, HO, HEE being a full body workout!
I have folks take a deep breath and truly FEEL the DEPTH of the exhaling of the air with the HA, HO, HEE sounds. I tell them it’s like working your core!
I was driving down the road, yesterday, and saw a roadside AD that noted a phone number ending in -5555. I had to LAUGH OUT LOUD – the number being HA, HA, HA, HA! Work it! Work it! Work that core! Roar with laughter! Just for the health of it!
Being an OUTLOOK SHIFT ENGINEER, I instantly saw the OTHER SIDE of the number 5!
Work seems like drudgery or it can be done with GRATITUDE and a POSITIVE attitude of appreciation and exhalation!
YES! I have work to do!
YES! I get paid for my work!
YES! People appreciate my work!
YES! I am able to work! … and so on!
5 (five) – it’s all in how you see it! Work or ‘Workin it’!
5555555555 (ha ha ha ha ha ha ha) ’Whistle while you work … ha ha ha ha ha ha ha!) to recall a fun tune.
Have a happy day! Work that core! It’s not a chore!
Ha Ha Helen of LAFOLOT.com
Outlook Shift Engineer! Hear! Here!
Wednesday, August 29th, 2012
Had a visual, while awaking this morning – a thick, full, bunch of CRABGRASS blocking my view!
What’s new? I’ve been down, dealing with a lot, coming out of the dark …
had finally started to ‘get out of my physical house’ to do some weeding on my lawn. Not only does it do the lawn good, does the body and mind, as well!
Message received! WEED the CRABGRASS out of your MIND, if you don’t mind! Don’t MIND if I DO!
Depression is ANGER turned INWARD. In order to move OUT of DEPRESSION and MOVE FORWARD in LIFE … the old, angry, unprocessed thoughts need to be WEEDED to ALLOW LIGHT TO COME IN!
So, I was just out pulling, pulling, pulling, lots and lots of weeds and crabgrass out of the ground. With depression, it’s a WIN/WIN situation! Physical movement as well as Emotional processing can take place at the same time!
Feeling down, feeling blue? see what REMOVING PHYSICAL and EMOTIONALLY-OLD-THOUGHTS can do for you!
Try it! If you don’t have a yard – offer to help someone in the neighborhood, someone senior, etc.
It’s AH! MAZING! … the power of WEEDING!
One, two .. one two … feel the burn … and learn … as you work your body and free your mind!
Be kind to yourself …
HA HA Helen of LAFOLOT.com
Wednesday, August 29th, 2012
Calling upon angels for a sign that things will be ‘F-I-N-E’ (some folks will understand the humor in that)…; I can across a 91 year old angel.
I was exiting a local grocery store, crossing the parking lot with my cart, and noticed a woman sitting in her car – driver door open – legs out – pausing to exit the vehicle. To be KIND, just in case there was an issue, I called over: ‘Do you need any help? Just checking. … as I stepped over in her direction at the handicap parking spot.
‘No’ she responded… ‘I’m just giving myself some time to adjust, I just took off the sock the doctor had me put on my foot – it was too tight and my foot is swollen.’
I had been LOOKING FOR A SIGN (playing my usual license plate game) – but nothing had appeared. Guess ‘someone out there’ thought I needed a ‘talking to.’ HA HA. Dealing with family and life challenges can be a bit much, at times – IT’S LIFE – but, just sometimes – you want a break from it. I haven’t been able to take a break from it since 2008, due to a slew of circumstances, one after the other.
So – having been on my PITTY POT the last couple days – I think this 91 year old ANGEL was sent to GET THE JOB DONE!
What a beautiful soul! 91 years old, white-fluffy-curly hair – wearing Bright, Colorful, Floral-print slacks, a Pink Shirt – looking GORGEOUS! This woman had the WISDOM OF THE AGES in her!
I had a wonderful conversation with her. She told me about her husband, who was an extremely healthy eater, but had died of a staf infection. She said: THAT’S LIFE! We talk about ‘when it’s YOUR TIME, it’s YOUR TIME! I told her about my oldest sister Dolly, and my mom – with their super strong spirits!
She told me about a form of BONE Tuberculosis she had in her early years – that caused her to be in a full body cast from age 10 to age 18. She noted how they didn’t have visiting nurses, and the task was all on her mom to manage it all. BUT WE DID! she noted. We DID, because we HAD to! My mom used to say the same thing about her family, and THE GREAT DEPRESSION.
Well! I had been in a DEPRESSION – and the universe sent this SPIRITED ANGEL to SNAP ME OUT OF IT! DO WHAT YOU HAVE TO DO – she was noting – LIVE WISE – NO NEED TO RUSH (as she comfortably waited for the right time to stand).
I told her I was grateful I got to meet her. I told her she helped to turn my day around. She returned the compliments.
When I got in the car, PAT BENATAR’s song: ‘WE BELONG’ was playing on the radio. I never, truly heard those words before.
WHAT A STRONG, SPIRITUAL MESSAGE in that song:
Many times I’ve tried to tell you, many times I’ve cried alone
Always I’m surprised how well you cut my feelings to the bone
Don’t wanna leave you really, I’ve invested too much time
To give you up that easy, to the doubts that complicate your mind
We belong to the light, we belong to the thunder
We belong to the sound of the words we’ve both fallen under
Whatever we deny or embrace for worse or for better
We belong, we belong, we belong together
Maybe it’s a sign of weakness, when I don’t know what to say
Maybe I just wouldn’t know what to do with my strength anyway
Have we become a habit, do we distort the facts
Now there’s no looking forward, now there’s no turning back, when you say
Close your eyes and try to sleep now, close your eyes and try to dream
Clear your mind and do your best to try and wash the palette clean
We can’t begin to know it, how much we really care
I hear your voice inside me, I see your face everywhere, still you say
Gratitude and Thanks for this ANGEL -
Ha Ha Helen of LAFOLOT.com
Sunday, August 19th, 2012
I developed a talk called: ‘WHO? ARE YOU? WHO? WHO? WHO? WHO?’ (thanks to the song by THE WHO!)
It is based on my own life experience, in my own metomorphosis from HELEN to:
HAPPENING HELEN (a nickname given to me by Edwards Holliday, President, Atlantic Leadership Group – back in the late 1990s – when I started to do Public Speaking, Acting, found my Singing voice, etc.)
Growing up, there weren’t any nicknames for HELEN. At a parttime sales job in early 1990s, a coworker nicknamed me ‘HECK’ since the short version of HELEN would be cursing! ha ha ha
I ‘LIKED’ it! I finally had a CASUAL name! HELEN is such a HEAVY-DUTY name!
Later on, as I started to dabble in acting, I nicknamed myself HOLLYWOOD HELEN! When I started to rePHresh my life and grow forward, I called myself: HEALING HELEN or HEALTHY HELEN – as I changed my daily habits!
It only seemed natural, when I started my LAFOLOT.COM business, that I would become: HA HA HELEN!
So, as I looked through my ‘WEBSTER’S DICTIONARY AND ROGET’S THESAURUS’ the other morning, I came across the word: HOLOMETABOLIC It is an Adjective applied to insects who undergo a complete metamorphosis. Think of the caterpillar to the butterfly.
So, now – having gone through a major metamorphosis from age 40 through 53, I now SEE – *hee hee – I AM: HOLOMETABOLIC HELEN! HOLY HECK! for short!
NICE TO MEET YOU!
HA HA Helen Szollosy, Outlook Shift Engineer! Hear! Here!
Creator, Owner and Sole Proprietor of LAFOLOT.COM – providing healthy trigger tools, healthy socialization through laughter wellness, and PHresh Outlooks!
Saturday, August 18th, 2012
Seems like when you fall into a slump – an angel comes along, and uses their wings to lift you up!
I’m coming ‘out of the dark’ – so to speak – having sold my condo, but it took me to a really precarious place, financially! *hee hee – nervous laugh!
When I went out to ‘network’ today – a friend’s new hair salon is having their grand opening, today – RETROCUTS – New Cumberland, PA … Got some great networking information and contact names!
I came across a license plate on a car that ended with -1222
I thought! That reminds me of my late dad’s birthday! February 1922
I then saw the license plate parked DIRECTLY next to that car; it started with the first 3 letters: DAD!
What are the odds? 2/22 DAD! He was always proud of his 2/2/22 birthdate!
When I walked a little farther up the parking lot lane – I saw a white-haired, senior woman looking a little concerned, near her parked car. I asked her if she had locked her keys in her car? Turned out she was only checking if she parked within the lined space. She then said: ‘It’s been a rough month, had to get more work done on my car, and new tires – that I wasn’t expecting!’
I smiled and said: ‘I hear you! I’ve been in the same space! But, I just saw two cars with license plates of 222 and DAD. I think the message is DON’T WORRY – I’M LOOKING OUT FOR YOU! I think everything is going to work out for you, too!’ She smiled.
I got into my car, and the time on the digital car display was: 12:22 (same as the first license plate I had seen!)
I turned on the car radio, and the new HOOTIE and THE BLOWFISH song was on: ‘I’LL BE THERE FOR YOU!’
THANKS, DAD! MESSAGE RECEIVED, LOUD AND CLEAR! I see you are HANGIN’ OUT WITH THE ANGELS, NOW!
He passed on 8/11/2000 – very appropriate to have the middle number add up to 2 and the year, as well! 22
Isn’t LIFE interesting …
Ha Ha Helen of LAFOLOT.com
Shaking my head in ‘wonderment’ *hee hee hee
Wednesday, August 15th, 2012
HA HA HELENISMS – PLANETARY MUMBLINGS
(created: 2:30pm – August 15, 2012 – www.LAFOLOT.com)
EARTH: ‘I don’t know about you, but I feel like I’m going in circles?’
SUN: ‘I’m HOT, baby – I’m HOT!’
URANUS: ‘Release … let go … ohmmmm’
MARS: ‘Mine? Yours? … … … MARS!’
JUPITER: ‘JU-PIT-ER DO IT! NOW!’
VENUS: (whispering to a friend) ‘This is VE-NUS, only – nobody else needs to know!’
PLUTO: ‘Stepped on a blueberry … now have a PLU-TO.’
MERCURY: ‘They were cured on a Merry Christmas! It was a MER-CURY!’
NEPTUNE: ‘I’m really tired, I’m gonna need a NEP-TUNE. *yawn)
SATURN: ‘Make SATURN, NOW! … or we’ll miss the entrance!’
MOON: ‘Feeling a little Blue … *sigh…’
what can I say? THIS is what happens when I’m feeling run down… I take a nap … and AH! WAKE! with creativity! *HEE HEE HEE Silly Me!
Ha Ha Helen Marie Szollosy, Outlook Shift Engineer! Hear! Here!
making her stand-up comedy debut appearance – Thursday – August 16, 2012
HARRISBURG COMEDY CLUB 110 Limekiln Rd, New Cumberland PA 17070
Monday, August 13th, 2012
I always found it an interesting observation about the nature of addict behavior. We might judge an addict as not caring about their life; when, if you look closely, there’s a perfectionism about the mis-management of the life.
Coming from a family of addicts, I got to personally view a lot of interesting behavior, as well as my own through continuing to become aware, feel, and heal.
For example, I have 3 sets of neighbors who are meticulous in maintaining their homes! These are ‘good’ people! Hard working! Good parents and grandparents. I ‘see the love’ and ‘healthy interaction’ when the children and grandkids come to visit. Then there is, in all 3 households, the addiction of tobacco smoke use.
With all this meticulous detail to the External Physical Environment, to the kids, grandkids, to the dedication to the employment, there’s the Lack of Awareness and Concern for the INTERNAL PHYSICAL self.
I learned, through 12 step programs, to separate the different aspects of a person with addictions. It’s how I came to appreciate the ‘other qualities’ of my own mom, separate from her abuse of alcohol.
It saddened me to observe the one family openly smoking in front of their grandchildren the other day. One particular moment involved the 2 year old REACHING UPWARD for ‘Grandma’s’ cigarette – as if it were candy or a toy! Why couldn’t she have it? She wondered. The grandma not being aware of what was being taught to the toddler. The grandma not being AWARE of the gaseous-smoke being wafted around the child’s play area.
Yesterday, I observed one of the other couples, sitting on their front porch, loving and enjoying the company of the newest grandchild, less than a year old, sitting on the grandma’s lap. Both grandparents smoke and were actively smoking with the baby there.
Again, meticulous house, would protect that baby’s physical self in a heartbeat. Would jump in front of a moving train, yet the ADDICTION blinding the harm it is inflicting on the baby. I’ve seen the same with the addiction to white flower/sugar/grease/fat. A mother actively ingesting 2 cookies while sitting at a local sandwhich shop; handfeeding them to the toddler, and then purchasing a dozen more to take with them. Having an issue with that myself, I had a strong feeling those cookies wouldn’t make it home.
Another instance, I observed a mother allowing a child to actively just eat the butter out of the butter packets, one after the other, at a local restaurant. Addictions come in all shapes and sizes at an early age. Addiction or the body starving for proper nutrition? I couldn’t say.
The Department of Health put up Billboards, years back, showing how ODD, SICKLY etc. persons look, who smoke tobacco. They were trying to bring awareness.
I have a new thought or suggestion to the Department of Health. Perhaps if they put up billboards – graphically showing the harmful smoke being wafted across the faces of the Babies, Children, Pets, Wildlife (graphically – not a true photo) – it would AWAKE the addicts?
But then again, WHAT AM I SAYING? The only person that can change the habits of an addict, are the addicts themselves.
BEing, sitting, and observing – LIFE in action … or DESTRUCTION?
i n t e r e s t i n g …
I’m not a parent, I don’t have children, I can only observe and ponder, not judge, as I wonder. I see the external, physical love of ENVIRONMENT and the CARING of the INTERNAL SELF for self and other ‘loved’ ones going UP – IN – SMOKE.
Saturday, August 11th, 2012
There’s a familiar phrase, waiting in breathless anticipation!
It’s that moment of quick inhaling, in anticipation of a moment. The moment can be expecting a good surprise, or being in a state of fear or questioning an outcome.
I talk about this when I present my ‘Laughter? Let’s Get Serious!’ laughter wellness programs. What comes after the quick inhale of breath; is the exhale of relief. This can be translated to a HAaaaaa as in laughter response, a scream, a chuckle, or further short breaths/shallow breathing – when running away in fear.
I recently, finally, sold a condo I had chosen to release in May 2010. In 2008, I had stepped up, let go of my childhood fears of my oldest sister (hit by a drunk driver at age 20 (1967), permanently brain damaged, living in rent-controlled housing). I had to release my fear of her brain seizure, emotional anger, unexpected outbursts, I experienced as an 8 year old – and help her out through her new life crisis. I am blessed I had gone through one-on-one, group and 12 step program counseling. I was able to relate to her in a healthy way, state my bounderies, do her grocery shopping for her and her husband, to help them out. She had lived on her own, managed her own life, with her new challenges, but diabetes caused a new type of seizures and breaking down of her life adaptations.
From there, she agreed to allow me to be her power of attorney, due to going in and out of emergency rooms, hospital stays, a rehab stay and needing to get into assisted living for medication management and an easier, calmer lifestyle. Long story short, it was hell for her, her mentally challenged husband and I feel I was channeling MICHAEL, ARCHANGEL to stand up for her rights and get her through the major shock in her life!
This made me relook at my life, I let go of a $72,000/year State Government tech support job of 28 1/2 years, decided to downsize (let go of the 30 year condo mortgage), establish my LAFOLOT.com business, let go of my television in February 2009, and get out of a cubical environment to get out there and help my sister, myself and activate and share all my right brain creativity to help others. I felt there was more to life to living.
Breathless anticipation? I discovered, this morning, while sitting at my home computer – I had STARTED to take DEEP BREATHS again! I feel, that like a cat – slinking down, and taking short, quick breaths while zeroing in on, and focusing to catch a bird, mouse, etc. – in 2008, I had gone into an EXTENDED STATE of short, shallow breathing in BREATHLESS ANTICIPATION of the next CRISIS, the next SHOE TO DROP, the next PHONE CALL emergency…
I am grateful for an older sister who stepped in to help with the medical power of attorney for my oldest sister. I am grateful for a younger sister who took over Power of Attorney for my elderly mom, who passed on June 29 – as well as all her additional sacrifice and help in dealing with my oldest sister.
I tell people I teach what I need to learn, and share because I care. I FORGET, and I feel we ALL FORGET to take those DEEP CLEANSING BREATHS while we are in crisis.
But, also, as the KRAZY KAT LADY who learns a lot from watching her 3 cats; there’s a PURPOSE for the BREATHLESS ANTICIPATION … it puts one in the ability to POUNCE in order to survive, stay alive. The lession is to know WHEN to START BREATHING AGAIN.
Evidently, my body felt it was SAFE to start breathing again ….
Living, and Learning … day by day … moment by moment … breathing … breathing … IN GRATITUDE for all the help and support.
Healing, Highlighted, HA HA Helen of LAFOLOT.com
Breathe in with an AHHHHH! and release with a HAAAAAAAA…. repeat.