LAFOLOT

So – as the story goes – Charles Fogarty walks into a SUBWAY and a woman sitting at the front window table says:

‘Are you John Fogarty?’ (she noticed the JOHN FOGARTY … Custom Homes cap he was wearing).

He responds: “Why yes! How do you know me?’ (as he walks towards her to shake her hand.

She responds: “I’m Psychic! Plus, I saw it written on your cap!’ (she smiles)

I ‘YAM’ HA HA Helen of LAFOLOT, and I love talking and interacting with total strangers in a fun way.

I later found out, per this man, he calls himself a: ‘FUN FINDER!’   Can I spot them or what?

I found out ‘he’ is CHARLES Fogarty, very PROUD brother of THE LATE ‘JOHN FOGARTY’ who donated money to a BOY SCOUT Camp in Sunbury, Pennsylvania; to allow for a ‘dining hall’ to be built!

He was accompanied by another gentleman who had been a local troop scout leader for almost 20 years!  I learned they had stopped by to pick up two dozen cookies to take to the DEDICATION of the DINING HALL which his brother had made possible!

Another wonderful thing; one of the sandwhich artists at the SUBWAY got to let Charles know that HE was an EAGLE SCOUT!  What a coincidence!   I also live a couple homes away from a proud father of an Eagle Scout!

I let Charles know that I ‘YAM’ a Certified Laughter Leader who present laughter wellness to folks.  He seemed to feel he had heard of me from some friends in the area!  I started to explain the AH-LO-HA ha ha ha laugh to Charles, when, I didn’t have to even finish!  He had never heard of the ALOHA LAUGH EXERCISE, but he just let the laughter flow out of him, easily!  I told him he was a natural!

That’s when he told me he was a FUN FINDER!

Well! What do you know!  A whole lot of HEALTHY, FUN, APPRECIATIVE, PROUD people walked into a SUBWAY today – and accidentally/on purpose – ran into eachother!

That’s the SPIRIT!  The Spirit of Laughter!  Drawing folks together in HEALTHY SOCIALIZATION!

That’s what I do …  DO WEAR IT OUT!  HA HA HA HA HA …   it’s healthy!

What a great GIFT for this man’s brother, John Fogarty, to leave behind for the SUNBURY BOY SCOUT camp!

Enjoy the fresh cookies!

HA HA Helen of LAFOLOT (Outlook Shift Engineer! Hear! Here!)

Live Life! Laugh Often!

I was feeling restless, hyper and unsettled – so I decided to take a walk in the cool-mild, overcast morning.  I find grey, soft skies calming.  It’s early Spring, and the birds have been happily chirping.

I chose to move to what is a former-evolving trailer park; turning into downsized-manufactured homes for those who choose to live simply.  ”Less is more” as Le Corbusier said.  (architect)

As I walked, I first got startled by a loud BOOM from a neighboring business using heavy equipment.  My heart beat faster, but I chose to focus on my walk of peace.  I chose to get out of the house, away from the news and views and think, feel and walk in Peace.

I encountered a friendly, welcoming black cat that lives up the road.  It let me know I was welcome to walk by it’s territory in Peace.  It walked with me a bit, then returned to it’s home.  

I next encountered another home owner.  We exchanged ‘pleasant morning’ greetings as he continued sweeping and I continued my walk of Peace.

I chose to walk along an expansive, grassy area at the back of the park, that runs along a local railroad with slow-moving, local trains.  

I saw signs of peace when encountering to Mourning Doves in a bush.

I saw a sign of LOVE when I noticed someone, from the past, had TAKEN THE TIME to plant DAFFODILS along the railroad track grassy bank.  I smiled and felt the beauty and love.

I was BLESSED and PRIVILEDGED  when a RED FOX sprang out from a bush and hopped across the tracks.  What a rare thing to occur! Only the second time in my life I’ve gotten to see a red fox living naturally, not confined.

As I walked along the grass, I saw signs of flower seeds planted by birds and pollinated by bees, all through the grass.  It brought a smile to my face.

As I headed back to my home, I saw another sign of LOVE, from a past resident.  I saw someone had taken the TIME to place a BLUE BIRD wooden nesting box on a pole along the railroad tracks.  I smiled, again, that someone had cared.

I had been feeling restless, due to being challenged by a local neighbor, who was responding with torment and taunting when I asked that loud, deeply reverberating, low, speaker feedback being installed in a car – be stopped.  I appreciate this neighbor, and the joy I see celebrated with his children and grandchildren.  But, I had had verbal torment and physical loud noise/purposeful retaliation tossed back at me.  I know this is coming from a place of hurt.  

I have chosen to respond in PEACE.  I have chosen to readjust my living habits to ‘turn the other cheek’ and look at PEACE and LOVE around me.  I feel wars, bombing, hate crimes come from HURT SOULS not being able to SHIFT their FOCUS to all the PEACE and LOVE around them.

I choose to send PEACE and LOVE thoughts to my neighbors as they FEEL and HEAL the HURT they experienced from my request.

I choose to walk in peace, to feel that peace, to honor my body, mind and spirit; and the spirit of nature and the planet.  

Like with recent events causing HURT on our planet, I choose to see the GOOD GOING ON with all the LOVE and HELPING HANDS reaching out to bring PEACE and HEALING.

When I arrived home from my walk of peace, I was delighted to find a LILY of the VALLEY plant growning next to my Daffodil bulbs! I had not planted Lily of the Valley! Perhaps a sweet bird or squirrel brought it to me as a gift? What a surprise!

Blessings to our planet as it FEELS and HEALS through HURTS.  

Thankful for all the signs of PEACE and LOVE around me, allowing me to SHIFT my FOCUS.  

SHIFT that FOCUS!  HOCUS, POCUS! *POOF! There’s Beauty, Peace, Love, and Magic all around us!  

W.O.W. … World of Wonder … World of Wisdom!

Helen Szollosy

Outlook Shift Engineer!  

Live Life! Laugh Often!   PEACE to ALL.

I DARE you!
I CHALLENGE you!
I ENCOURAGE you!
I INVITE you!

to BE! To FREELY Be! WITHOUT the use of STIMULANTS – chemical or additive, tobacco, alcohol, sugar, white-flour, caffeine .. the list goes on.

to BE! to truly BE Free … WITHOUT being concerned what OTHERS may THINK of YOU!

to ALLOW your SPIRIT, your SOUL to fly FREE!

to STEP IN A PUDDLE – during a rain storm – just for the fun of it – at ANY AGE. (I do this.)

to lie on the cool grass of a park or field and look up at the sky or trees (I’ve done this at Central Park New York).

to laugh with the ducks and geese or seagulls as they fly or float around you at a lake or shore. (I’ve done this.)

to make YOUR OWN LIST of B.S. … BEING SILLY – without caring what others think – without USING something to numb your mind or your brain – in order to GIVE YOURSELF PERMISSION.

I say: STAND UP and BE … BE FREE to BE … to ALLOW your SOUL and SPIRIT to FLY FREE …

without having to give your MONEY, TIME, or FREEDOM to an ENABLER that tells you:

YOU CAN ONLY BE FREE IF YOU PAY ME TO GIVE YOU AN ADDICTIVE PRODUCT that ‘HELPS’ you to let go.

Just think of all the FUN PLACES YOU CAN GO – to BE – to just HAVE FUN and ALLOW YOURSELF TO BE – with ALL THE MONEY you would be SAVING!

With all the SUPER HEALTH you’ll be experiencing -

as your INNER-CHILD says: YES! LET’S GET OUT AND PLAY! It’s OKAY! No matter what THEY say!

PLAY BALL!
HAVE A BALL!
Hang out with a noisy crow and CAW CAW CAW!

I’M FREE! I’M UNLIMITED! I CARE ABOUT ME! I DESERVE TO BE FREE!

HELLO! NEW, HEALTHY, YOU! WOO! HOO!
COME OUT AND PLAY!
HAVE A GREAT DAY!

Ha Ha Helen of LAFOLOT.com
Rollin’ Rollin’ Rollin’ on the GREEN LAWN and GIGGLING as she goes!

WOW! Today, here in Central Pennsylvania, we are having a TEASER-SPRING Day! We had a few days of cold, March winds. But, AH! YES! today, the sun is shining, it is high 40 degree fahrenheit weather. The birds are chirping, just a gentle breeze. SIGH … what a blessing!

I went to a local SUBWAY I frequent. While I was sitting there, a tall man came in with a cute toddler girl. He greeted the restaurant owner by name and talked warmly with him. I helped direct him to the MILK and JUICE in the refrigerator at the end of the service line. The little girl picked out her prize juice and carried it proudly to the checkout counter.

The man continued to talk warmly and compliment the owner. He then sat down with his daughter or grand-daughter. He made sure she was safely tucked into her chair, having her juice and a cookie for a snack.

As they got up to leave, he voiced thanks and warm wishes to the owner for a good day and much success.

Then, a mom came in with her pre-teen daughter. As they stood in line, I noticed the girl had the most beautiful, natural blonde hair. Her mom had dark brown hair. You could tell they were mom and daughter by their similar facial features. I said out loud: ‘Wow! She has the most beautiful, blonde hair I have ever seen!’ The girl smiled and thanked me, as well as her mom.

I then said: ‘OH! I shouldn’t just focus on an external attribute; I’m SURE she is BEAUTIFUl INSIDE AND OUT as well!’ The mom smiled and laughed, thanking me, and said: ‘Yes! She is!’ The daughter smiled.

On this BEAUTIFUL DAY in Central PA, it appears it is a DAY of BEAUTY – both INSIDE and OUT! Not only weather-wise.

Get out and SPREAD SOME SUNSHINE – with words and actions and appreciation of the beauty of it all.

Stay sweet!

Ha Ha Helen of LAFOLOT.com

We are born with the natural ability and tools to live a healthy life. Of course, some are challenged with physical, mental, emotional blocks – at birth – so they require the love, understanding, assistance and patience of others.

What are some of these tools?

Breathing
Visualizing
Laughing
Smiling
Physical Movement
Analysis

These tools help us to:

Discover
Ponder
Learn
Relieve Stress
See situations in a new light
Get physically and mentally healthy

We have these tools within us from the day we are born, they came with this amazing package born into this world.

Do you struggle with the USE of Addictive or Body, Brain, Mind harming chemical dependence? This can come in the form of sexual addiction, shop-a-holic syndrome, overeating, addict eating, chemical or substance abuse, tobacco abuse, recreational drug use, etc.

There are self-help and group support programs available for all these challenges. They are as close as a phone call to a local resource with a list of privacy-respected meetings.

HEALTHY ALTERNATIVES TO RELIEVING STRESS or DEPRESSION:

WALKING
TALKING
SLOW – MEDITATIVE BREATHING
TAKING A MOMENT – PAUSING
PICKING UP A PHONE TO CALL A HEALTHY FRIEND
WRITING
LAUGHING
SMILING
HEALTHY SOCIALIZATION (get out and PLAY BALL! DANCE! SING! JUST PLAY! Become a Big Brother or Sister! )

Honor YOURSELF! Honor the BODY, MIND, and SPIRIT! No need to beat up on yourself, it’s all part of being HUMAN!
YOU, MAN – HAVE THE ABILITY TO TURN IT AROUND!

Now LET OUT THAT LAUGHTER SOUND …. CRY and SNIFF like a SOBBING HOUND …
RELEASE and LET GO … ‘CAUSE, YOU KNOW …
YOU – YES YOU! ARE A BEAUTIFUL EXPRESSION OF LIFE – DESERVING OF ALL THAT IS GOOD IN THIS WORLD!

KNOW THE MAGNIFICENCE THAT YOU ARE -
YOU ARE BETTER THAN ANY SUBSTANCE you may want to USE to temporarily fix stress or depression or anger or frustration.

YOU, YOUR FAMILY – YOUR CHILDREN – ALL DESERVE the BEST that LOVE and LIFE have to offer!

Take this moment – and turn it around. YOU CAN DO IT!

Ha Ha Helen of LAFOLOT.COM
Check out my www.lafolot.com website – for healthy trigger tools tools to help you heal!

As I stepped out my back door to place refuse into my trash can; my eyes caught something odd on the lawn next door. My brain didn’t immediately understand what it was seeing. I ‘THOUGHT’ I saw a neighbor, face-down, working on some issue with their home. Then, I noticed the bare feet (in Winter). Some people do interesting things like that, so I was going to go over and ‘joke’ with the person. I could only see the pant legs and feet from where I stood.

Then, my mind started to awake. ‘WHAT IF THERE WAS SOMETHING WRONG? I didn’t see any movement.’ I ran back into my home to get my cell phone to take with me, as I walked over to ask if they were okay?’ After taking a few steps towards the lawn of the home next to me, I immediately started to dial 911 emergency.

I am excellent in crisis situations. I think clearly, I handle things, I get things done. The other side of the coin is, I am deeply feeling. As I gave clear address, name, found dead body, face ashy, soiled pants, eyes dead stare information to the 911 operator; I felt instant sadness that someone may be worried or looking for this woman. The LADY ON THE LAWN.

I have dealt with many challenges and trauma in my life, so I knew what to do to take care of myself and get on with living life. I stayed physically active, and called friends to talk about it. I was grateful when the police noted they knew who she was, from a home in my development. I was grateful I had found her in time, before her body was further harmed.

It’s one week before the celebration of CHRISTMAS, and just finishing Hanukah. I wrote my own eulogy for this LADY ON THE LAWN. I like to think that her final GIFT to the world was the AWARENESS of the fragility of LIFE! This is the same week that many lives were taken from school children. More angels making us AWARE of the GIFT of LIFE!

When I exited my home around Noon, today – I saw ANOTHER SIGN of THE GIFT OF LIFE! A Central Pennsylvania BLOOD MOBILE! A traveling medical unit used for persons to DONATE THE GIFT OF LIFE to someone dealing with blood loss.

It’s interesting that something like BLOOD, that can make people squeamish and pass out; gives the GIFT OF LIFE!

There are SIGNS all around us, they don’t always come in PRETTY, FESTIVE, WRAPPED PACKAGES. Sometimes these signs come from a person expression rage or confusion (via senseless acts); or from a neighbor who lived alone – and wouldn’t have been found for days – if she hadn’t wondered out of her home and expired on my neighbor’s lawn. Sometimes, it comes in the shape of a mobile blood unit.

To the ANGELS that come in all disguises, as well as THE LADY ON THE LAWN, the Loss of Life of Children in school … the blood mobile unit workers …

Thank you for the WAKE-UP CALL … the 9-1-1- CALL TO LIFE! SEEING THE LIGHT this Hanukah and Christmas time.

Blessings and awareness to all, and to all a VERY AWARE LIFE!

Helen

OK TEAM! LET’S GET OUT THERE AND LIGHTEN-UP THOSE STRESSED-OUT HOLIDAY SHOPPERS!

All you need is a CLOSED-MOUTH smile and NO EXPECTATIONS!

YOUR ASSIGNMENT:

If you are able, park far out in the parking lot of a busy shopping center.

Take a BRISK, STRESS-FREE walk into the shopping mall, plaza, store.

ON THE WAY – offer to return someone’s shopping cart; or take one into the store to offer to someone.

WALK CASUALLY through the amongst the shoppers with a CLOSED-MOUTH smile – no expecations of a return.

If someone returns your smile you get A POINT! If they return your smile and give your a verbal greeting or head nod, you get TWO POINTS! It’s the HA HA HELEN OF LAFOLOT.COM SMILE CAMPAIGN GAME!

SPREAD THOSE SMILES BY THE MILES AND AISLES!

THIS CAUSES MANY HEALTHY MENTAL, PHYSICAL and EMOTIONAL health benefits in YOUR body; and it does the same for others!

Great SELF-ESTEEM BOOSTER!

LIGHTEN-UP, ENLIGHTEN, and LET LIVE!

OK TEAM! LET’S GET OUT THERE AND put on your WE-DO (WORLDWIDE EVOLVED DO-GOODER ORGANIZATION) VIRTUAL CAPES!

HAPPY HA HA HOLIDAY LIGHTEN-UP PATROL to you!

WOO! HOO! YOU ARE A GIFT TO THE WORLD!

HA HA Helen of LAFOLOT.com
Live Life! Laugh Often!
Spread those Smiles by the Miles!

Had to share this AH! MAZING! sequence of events that just occurred when I went out to pick up a sandwhich at Windsor Park SUBWAY.

1) I was sitting in the window seat, looking out the window (a lot of interesting stuff goes on in the parking lot!)

2) I saw two women stop at the curb’s edge; after exiting the tobacco/lottery shop next door. I could see the one woman crouched down; her purse on the ground; taking out her wallet and putting it on the sidewalk; and searching into the depth of the oversized purse.

3) I saw the one woman rise, and talk with her friend as they head for a vehicle. (At this point, I’m thinking she lost or forgot something – possibly her keys. I was going to invite her to come into the SUBWAY sandwhich shop, and use one of the tables to more effectively search her purse.)

4) Just then – a man exits the tobacco/lottery shop and enters the SUBWAY sandwhich shop. I say to him: ‘I think that woman can’t find her car keys.’

5) The man does an about face, hold open the door and calls out to the women:’I JUST FOUND A SET OF KEYS INSIDE AND LEFT THEM AT THE CHECKOUT COUNTER!’

6) I see the women turn and quickly head back towards the tobacco/lottery store. The man re-enters SUBWAY to head back to the restroom.

7) I see the women head back to their vehicle, and I see the vehicle lights flash as the woman deactivates the locks and security feature. SUCCESS! THEY WERE HER KEYS! YES!

8) The man exits the restroom to head back out the door. He says: ‘WHAT ARE THE ODDS? I JUST WENT IN THERE AND FOUND THOSE KEYS!

TIMING IS EVERYTHING! IT’S THE KEY!

I was the CATALYST … observing the women and sharing the information with the gentleman.

There’s a line from the play: ‘A Streetcar Named Desire’ Blanche Dubois notes she relies on the kindness of strangers.

So! 3 strangers’ paths unite on a dark and ‘almost stormy night’ – with DOUBLE-KINDNESS bringing about a HAPPY ENDING!

Isn’t life interesting? ‘A little kindness goes a long way …’ HA HA Helen of LAFOLOT.com – Outlook Shift Engineer! Hear! Here!

This gentleman is now an honorary member of the WORLDWIDE EVOLVED DO-GOODERS ORGANIZATION! (WE-DO!)

I am blessed to have had an AH! HA! Life Changing Moment at age 49 (now age 53). I am now able to appreciate all life expression without fear! I used to have an extreme fear of bees and spiders (as well as other insects) – to the point of almost wrecking my car; or hitting/whacking others if they were nearby when I freaked out!

So, I walked over to our community mailboxes a bit ago. It is overcast and drizzly-rainy out. There tend to be big black and yellow, wood boring bumble bees that live around the mailbox roof covering. I am able to freely walk over, and allow them to BEE *hee hee.

It is interesting that I used to also not relate to the clothing color combination of black and yellow, I didn’t like the way they looked together. Once I had my AH! HA! moment, the IRONY is … my business logo colors ended up being black lettering on yellow background!

I also learned, through color psychology years ago – yellow agitates the brain and inspires learning. It is a good color for schools.

Well, today – when I went to the mailbox, I had mailed a letter and retrieved my incoming mail. As I was walking away from the mailboxes, I heard a familiar ‘HMMMMMMMM’ (buzzzzzz). It wasn’t one of the wood boring bees. I could tell the difference in the hmmmm/buzzzzz.

Listen to me! *hee hee I NOW SPEAK BEE LANGUAGE! HA HA! I realized a little honey bee was ‘checking me out’!

I RESPECTED the BEE, allowing it to EXPRESS its life in its own NATURE – NATURALLY *hee hee

I KNEW it had caught the scent of my hair care products, and was checking to see if I was a flower, etc.

So, I STOPPED
I PAUSED
I SMILED as I listened to its HMMMMM….
I SAW it slowly flying off to my left
I FELT it checking out my hair …

SOMETHING SMELLS ‘FUNNY’ perhaps it was thinking. Well! I AM KNOWN AS HA HA HELEN!

Then, I noticed it flew away.

I SMILED as I continued onward, reviewing my mail, as I walked towards my home.

How wonderful to just BE with the BEE, respect it, and BE at PEACE.

HA HA Helen of LAFOLOT.com
guess I smell FUNNY! HA HA
Outlook Shift Engineer! Hear! Here!

I am now, 53.  The song ‘Logical’ came out yearrrrrrs ago, eh hem.  I always HATED that song!  I could not stand the ‘SOUND’ of it.  I would always turn off the radio; or change the station, as soon as it came on the air.

I have ‘LIVED’ a lot of ‘LIFE’.  I have NOT always ALLOWED life experiences to present themselves to me, and teach me.

One day, I was in a local store where I work parttime (having to listen to the LOGICAL song a lot – and blocking it out – over the public address system).   The woman entered the store BOLDLY, with a BIG Presence and FAST pace walk.  I instantly ‘didn’t like this lady’.  (have to smile and laugh at my instant judgement.)

I went about my work, stocking shelves.  Then, the woman was getting ready to check out with the cashier, for her purchases.  Just as she came back towards the front of the store, the LOGICAL song came on the public address system.   She ANNOUNCES LOUDLY …. “GREAT SONG!”

Her ‘BIGness and LOUDness’ forced me to: PAUSE, STOP, and TRULY notice and listen to the words of the song.

WOW! (World Of Wonder!)  WHAT A GREAT SONG!  It’s what I’m all about!   Being INDEPENDENT;  thinking CREATIVELY; looking at LIFE with a PHresh Outlook!   It’s about how we are taught to think in one way, but – as we learn throughout life – there are MANY WAYS to view a situation!  We have CHOICE!

We hear, a lot, about all the ANGELS and TEACHERS that come across our path in life.  We hear a lot about how they may be someone who is Homeless, someone who is very aggravating, someone whom we INSTANTLY DISLIKE!  (laughing at myself, here)

Isn’t LIFE AH! MAZING!  I tell people: ‘I teach what I need to learn; I share because I care.’

I am GRATEFUL for this BOLD, LOUD, ANGEL who I INSTANTLY DISLIKED – who GOT MY ATTENTION.

It TAKES a BIG, LOUD, BOLD, OPINIONATED ANGEL to GET my ATTENTION!  (laughing out loud, here)

I now have a new FAVORITE SONG!   I tend to FEEL and RELATE to the SOUND of the MUSIC and NOT always NOTICE the WORDS.  I found this out when I started to sing professionally.  I always LOVED the song ‘ALL OF ME’ – it had such a wonderful, flowing, fun feel to it!  When I LEARNED, READ, and SANG the WORDS – I now DISLIKE this song.  WHY would I want to give my ARMS and LEGS etc. to someone in a relationship?   How HEALTHY would THAT be?

My point is, WHAT I HAVE LEARNED, as we are constantly told  …

JUST BE … BE Grateful for EVERYONE that CROSSES your path each day; no matter how much they IRRITATE, AGITATE, etc.  I SEE the MIRROR they are carring, reflecting ME!   I SEE the lessons they are TEACHING ME.

Little by little, step by step …  when I’m ready – I acknowledge and thank the latest angel that was BRAVE ENOUGH to CROSS the LIFE PATH of HA HA Helen.   They tend to have to JUMP OUT IN FRONT OF ME to get my attention!

I just became aware of a NEW one, yesterday!  *hee hee   I am now seeing this one as a SHINING LIGHT of irritation; REFLECTING some of my own behavior back at me.   BACK AT YA’!  … she is saying.

LIVING LIFE! LAUGHING OFTEN!   ‘Calling all angels … ‘   (another song I like … let me go truly see the words …)

Ha Ha Helen, Outlook Shift Engineer!  Hear! Here!