Posts Tagged ‘bullying’
Tuesday, July 31st, 2012
I wrote a book called: Life is a Song in the Key of Love or Growing Up with the Embarrassment of Prejudice. I note that bias, prejudice and stereotype may be ‘handed-down’ through generations; without being questioned. The bias, stereotype, or prejudice statements or actions may be repeated over and over; but not FELT. I suggest doing a self-review of how YOU feel or THINK based on your own life experiences, and not based on something held onto by generations past.
I like using right brain, creative methods to get serious points across. In my book, I make reference to sheet music.
Now, I’d like to suggest another method! WHAT Fairy Tales, Fables or Labels are you receiving or giving out, that you may want to RE-VIEW? rePHresh your thinking, reLOOK, reVIEW, step back and SEE aNEW! WHO are YOU? How do YOU feel?
Get rid of the False Fairy Tales, Fables and Labels, OH MY! Why? Because Fairy Tales and Fables are written to TEACH LIFE LESSONS. Are the ones you are holding onto, or creating, a TRUTH for YOU; or were they handed to you by a peer, family member, etc. who had a life experience that doesn’t resonate with you?
I give a talk called: PEER POSITIVE! I talk about letting go of the PEER PRESSURE and PEER FEAR and becoming PEER POSITIVE! Peers may hold one another back due to personal life experiences that caused them to shrink back or give up a goal. Their own fear translates into an intention to protect you from having their same, fearful or uncomfortable life experience. But! It doesn’t have to be yours.
So, what are your FAIR TALES, FABLES AND LABELS? OH MY! Make a list, check it twice, and see if the Action/Reactions in your life are FALSE Fables or Tales that need to be ‘TAIL WAGGED’ and swiped away from your everyday interactions. Create peace within you, and work towards a world of peace.
… and they lived happily ever after!
HA HA Helen Szollosy, OUTLOOK SHIFT ENGINEER! Hear! Here!
Live Life! Laugh Often!
Wednesday, February 8th, 2012
I had the ‘inspiration’ to create a video about bullying, for my www.youtube.com/helenoflafolot channel, the past couple days. I had been stalling. I want to focus the video on my personal experience with bullying; what happened in the life of one of my bullies (which allowed me to see her differently); and direct it to those being bullied.
Well, I just came from an unsettling grocery shopping experience.
I was walking towards the back of the store’s frozen foods section. Walking towards me was an adult male (Dad? Father?) PURPOSELY KICKING the backs of the shoes of ?? his 8 year old – possibly – daughter. He kept looking down to MAKE SURE HE PURPOSELY KEPT KICKING the backs of her shoes.
They were about 8 feet away from me, walking towards me. I tend to talk, joke, interract with people when I am out; but I was at a loss for words!
I watched the young girl’s face. It was neutral, no response. Was she feeling embarrassed, or used to being treated like this? She wasn’t smiling, wasn’t laughing. She was just dutifully walking in front of this man (father? dad?) PURPOSELY making it difficult for her to walk!
I think I just stopped, looked, and my face must have had a puzzled, WHAT THE HECK IS THIS MAN DOING look on it.
He THEN STOPPED, and said as they passed: ‘YOU DIDN’T SEE THAT’.
I ‘WANTED’ to say: WHO, is the ADULT in this instance!?
We wonder WHERE children learn BULLYING?
We wonder WHY children, and ADULTS get involved in bullying.
Bullying is no laughing matter. What has this man taught this young girl?
Helen Szollosy of LAFOLOT.COM
…at a loss for words, in a way. Perhaps I was being PROMPTED to MAKE THE VIDEO I had been stalling to make… MESSAGE RECEIVED!
Monday, January 16th, 2012
In honor of all the amazing work and awareness brought by MARTIN LUTHER KING, his family and others of his time period –
I wanted to Honor this day by bringing awareness of my book: LIFE IS A SONG IN THE KEY OF LOVE or Growing Up With the Embarrassment of Prejudice
The ‘thought’ for the book came to me back in 1999 during a New Year’s Church Service – ‘Start the New Year Fresh’ – church prayer/meditation regarding – our New Year focus. I was sitting quietly when the thought: ‘Growing Up With the Embarrassment of Prejudice’ came to mind.
I progressively started to write thoughts, notes, and quotes, etc. as I planned the book. It took me 9 years to write the book – because I wanted it to come from a POSITIVE space and not seem whiny nor negative. In my own growth and awareness – I found MY SINGING VOICE! In the process of finding my voice – I discovered the song from the 30′s: LIFE IS A SONG
There is a line in the song: Let’s Take Our Hearts and Dip them in Rhyme
THAT WAS IT! I thought! THAT’s how I can TURN THIS AROUND!
I wrote this book based on comparing LIFE to SHEET MUSIC! That a prejudiced/biased world would sound MONOTONE!
By Appreciating Life in ALL its forms of EXPRESSION (as well as showing RESPECT) – we can MAKE LIFE A SONG!
I know some of you have already read it and given me WONDERFUL feedback! Thank you so much!
The book deals HEALTHILY and CREATIVELY with treating ALL LIFE Expression with respect … noting my oldest sister with brain damage as a result of being hit by a drunk driver … or think of a child from a challenged household – with hygiene issues – being bullied at school for BEING DIFFERENT… or a person with dimentia – not aware of the present … it’s more than just religion, culture, skin color, gender bias …
IF YOU FEEL SO MOVED – PLEASE SHARE MY BLOG … it’s OPTIONAL …
I have seen so much in the news about racist comments, bullying, brain damage, and other bias. I feel there is a stronger need for me to promote my book – and I don’t currently have the funds.
Thank you for any support. Again, it’s OPTIONAL … whatever works for you! IN ACCEPTANCE AND PEACE …
Highlighted Helen Marie Szollosy
Living BOLD and in ITALICS!
Make LIFE a SONG!
Be in AWE of it ALL!